Virtual Gender

Judy Wajcman writes an interesting article on cyberspace and relationships. It's perfect for this day and age. I think everyone, especially if you are reading this blog has experience with this cyberspace world. It's new, exciting, creative, and allows for this sense of freedom that one just can't tap into in regular ordinary experiences. She talk about how we explore our own identities while also trying out new ones. I find it a way to create our own self into a unique individual or express our own unique characteristics.

With all the new attractive new sites at our finger tips, who wouldn't want to explore. Nobody can see you..nobody can feel you...nobody can see your expressions...it's all imaginary and fantasy like ...in fact two years ago I started playing around with eharmony.com and Match.com trying to seek a desired relationship that I had wanted for quite some time...hell...my entire life. To engage in words..phrases...it begins with winking at someone...they wink back if they are interested. I would start my day with winking at a few guys that wrote somewhat descent profiles and yet displayed some look by their picture that said.."WINK AT ME"..I'd rush home later that day to see who winked back and wanted to engage in conversations. Never did I realize that 2 years later I would be dating someone from a CYBERSPACE site. It's insane. he later told me he had viewed my profile and changed some of his to match mine so that I'd be more interested...FALSE ADVERTISEMENT HUH..funny thing is I can't return him...LOL...I wouldn't want to ...he is a keeper..

In a sense though it did allow for a risk free environment where we could engage in intimate conversations that perhaps many do fear and desire both. Although one may say rish free..I beg to differ that in some instances...Sometimes people who are in secure relationships sometimes feeling homebound adventure out to these sites only to find themselves caught up in relationships that they never thought they would partake in. Is this cheating they ASK??? If your spouse may walk in at anytime while u are networking and you feel you might have to minimize your computer screen than YES YES this is not risk free....I worry about these sites sometimes...TOO ATTRACTIVE maybe??? I've always said sometimes it may expose you to too much variety...too many situations dumped in your lap.....SIN IS KNOCKING AT YOUR DOOR SOMETIMES and if and only if you can keep it to friendship would I suggest it.....Would any of you agree that sometimes these sites can bring too much drama on if your life....Do you find yourself looking at times people logged in or what their status is or why he/she did this or said that online and what they were inferencing....I don't think this was where Wajcman was going with her article but the article bring me to wanting to discuss this topic very much...I bet soooooo many of you out there have something to say about this topic......IS it really such a SAFE environment?????Isn't cyberspace in a way lustful and that alone can be dangerous grounds for DISASTER...Please comment on this..I'm dying to know what others think.