This particular excerpt indicates how in the earlier days of the second wave of the Women's Movement, women gathered in small consciousness-raising groups to talk about their experiences with sex. They realized that more women than none had actually faked an orgasm. I think this topic is very interesting and I think it should be talked about more often. I believe that it is okay to fake an orgasm. I believe it brings us back to the topic of how sex means different things for different people. Some women who faked an orgasm on any given night may have needed to only get nurturing for her partner. Therefore in order to satisfy her man, she wanted to show him how pleasured she was. Some individuals get fulfillment by knowing their parner was satisfied and he/she then can relax and enjoy. Also, sometimes if a person is taking a particular medication or in a particular mindset, he/she may not be able to reach orgasm. This can not only be frustrating to either partner but cause stress to the situation. Also, woman especially can enjoy sex without orgasm. I don't think if you fake orgasm everytime however that this is healthy or normal but I do believe that sometimes it is crucial to a sexual existance. You don't have to have good sex to enjoy it. Any connection whatsoever can be beneificial to either partner. You also can not be in the MOOD for sex and find yourself somehow engaged in sex and be completely in the mood afterall.
I located a webpage that indicated 75% of women faked their orgasm. here is the link
http://news.softpedia.com/news/Why-75-of-the-Women-Fake-the-Orgasm-56389.shtml
This topic is definately one where I can see women to be embarrassed to talk about but I think it would be interesting to have an open discussion about this and see what are the reasonings behind it.
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1) I wouldn't call you middle-aged!
ReplyDelete2) Howcome it's always the women who are supposed to please the men in bed? How come women are the ones who are supposed to fake orgasms. If fake orgasms are about satisfying your partner, should men be faking orgasms 50% of the time to satisfy women? Furthermore, can't a person be satisfied without the other person having to fake ::ahem:: lie?
I believe men fake orgasms also. Hard to believe? There has been times when phone sex has had to be a part of the sexual relationship and I know guys fake orgasms sometimes in order to please their girlfriends. Let's face it they also get tired and just wanna go to sleep.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Cindy that we don't need to reach orgasms all the time to be satisfied and faking it is not also a bad thing if we do it once in a while. I think as a woman its really hard to reach organism easily even though our man tries hard to satisfy us. It also doesn't mean we have a bad sex if we fake orgasms, I think sex is more than just having orgasms. If I have to fake orgasms, I do it because I want my man to be happy and satisfied because I know he will try so hard to please me before he please himself... But faking it all the time, I don't think its good or normal...
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